Ask Dr. G Love [Debut Episode]
April 22, 2008 by souloperator
In the debut episode of Ask Dr. G Love on www.iloveupeople.com Dr. G love answers questions for a couple curious about polyamory and a young lesbian still on the fence about herself.
YES WE DID MIX
clearly i’m always up for discussions of polyamory …
but i particularly like the way in which Dr. G Love handles this question.
i think that one thing i have noticed when it comes to talking about polyamory with couples (and singles) is that the idea seems to come up when one person is feeling like “not enough” or someone is “not satisfied” and this is actually what tends to give the term and “lifestyle” (how i hate that word) … i would suggest mode of loving … a bad name.
it’s not for everybody … but we won’t ever really know if we go into it for the wrong reasons.
I’m actually wondering how many other people have ever expressed interest in this … and whether they see (as I must confess I do) differences in polyamory and traditional modes of non-monogamous loving (i’m really meaning open relationships allowing sex).
i’d have to say the biggest one would be the potential for fostering other branches of loving relationships, myself.
I thoroughly enjoyed watching this debut episode of “Ask Dr. G”.
During the past year and a half, I was involved in a polyamorous situation. Woman #1 and I get along well and have a great friendship that was sexual for just over a year. I found her to be unexciting as a lover, non-committal, but still wants to be a friend with benefits. She is a college student, a workaholic, ambitious, intellectually stimulating and a good confidante. I cheated on her with someone who is not in a position to offer me what I want from a lover. I’ll call her Woman #2.
Woman #2 is the one who is sexy, fun, attractive and the life of the party. You couldn’t find two more opposite personalities. Woman #2 is also married with children and has no intention of letting her husband know she is bi-sexual. She will never leave him. Woman #2 was ok with my being with Woman #1 when she wasn’t able to be with me. After all, she was having her cake and eating it too. Woman #1 was not cool about my wanting to be with the other woman.
I have ceased having sexual relations with Woman #2 because in my case, two halves weren’t making a whole. Verbal communication with her is limited, so Woman #1 is more worth investing in as a friend. I will never put myself in a compromising position again. There are too many emotions involved and somebody always gets hurt.
I enjoyed this podcast a lot. It’s so nice to have someone who is part of the LGBTQI community to email personal questions to. Dr.G Love, you’re a beautiful person for doing this.
this is great. Hey finally a beautiful consultant with no facial cracks and road maps. I’m sorry its always been hard for me to listen to sexual relationships and advise from the crypt keeper. Yeah I know I’m bad. But I’m 43 so I can talk. Dr. G. Love you’re beautiful all around, and totally informative.
Thank you for taking the time to address these questions Dr. G Love… You have touched me today.