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Ask Dr. G Love: The Pressure Points

Hi Dr. G Love,

I am 21 and new to the lgbt community. I do not identify as neither, but I have been frequenting lgbt events with a friend who has recently become bi-curious. I have shared these thoughts for some time and am now having the opportunity to explore them. I’ve met a couple of women that I thought were attractive (I have leaned towards “butch”/aggressive women because I ‘m not sure how comfortable I am being with someone in a passive role), but I am not sure where to go from here. I don’t want to ask the wrong questions and I don’t want to assume that they want to be treated like or compared with men just b/c they are “butch” I also don’t know anything about lesbian sexual experiences so I don’t know what to do in that department either and I feel like my fears are unattractive and may lead to me missing out. I appreciate any advice you have.

–
a bit confused

Dear a bit confused,

Welcome to the community! May you flourish and prosper in love, pleasure, and the joys queerdom. With that said, let’s clear some things up. First of all, there are no wrong questions. If you like a woman you can walk right up to her and start a conversation. I know, that sounds like a wild suggestion, but guess what? Women, butch femme and everything in-be-tween like to be approached. It feels good. Butch women, in fact, have lately in my presence been putting it out there that they would appreciate more communication on the part of femmes et al. Even if they don’t dance, they would love if you asked.

The good news about the lgbt community is we rarely bite (at first) so you should be relatively safe. The only thing to look out for is a jealous girlfriend/lover/date somewhere in the wings – if you miss that, you may encounter some serious drama of the sort that only women can bring. “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” so they say. So put in the effort to take note or inquire around if a woman is available before you approach her.

As for comparing women to men, you are right. Women are women and a butch/aggressive woman is a completely different animal than a bio-boy. Even the butchest of the butches are gonna come with that special flava that only a woman can bring. The main point is, every woman is her own self. The only way to discover a woman is to set out on the adventure. If you honestly speak to a potential lover about your concerns, fears, desires, and questions you should be well on your way to discovering the joys of queer sex, love, and relationships.

Have faith, and be yourself,
Dr. G Love

Hello Dr. G Love,

Ok, I just saw you on a U People episode. Loved it. Getting to business though… I want to know what do you know about pressure points and massages? I want to know how I can possible touch my woman to create strong and direct sensations to all parts of her body, mind, soul, and spirit. I’d appreciate if you could help me out. One Love and God Bless.

Dear One Love and God Bless,

I agree. Let’s get right to business…

Here are some head to toe sensual pressure points that you can incorporate into your massages, foreplay, and lovemaking. You will want to make sure you have relaxed your partner with a light massage to her back or perhaps her feet – to open her up to your sensual touch. Then using a pressure that begins lightly and may increase with time and her sensitivity, you can rub these points in clockwise circles to stimulate and pleasure your partner.

The temples. Be sure and use light pressure on these very sensitive areas found just above the ears at the hairline.

The third eye (in the center of the forehead) using light touch to relieve tension.

Occipital Ridge. This erogenous zone is in the two points that are found on either side of the area where the spine meets the skull (you’ll find the little hollows in the bone). Put your fingertips on these points and gradually increase the pressure for about 30 seconds to a minute.

Back of the Neck. This erogenous zone, is located in the middle of the tendons on either side of her neck. You will then want to knead the shoulder muscles slowly and deeply.

Behind the knees. Use your index and middle fingers to apply gentle pressure between the two tendons behind her knees, you can choose to kiss or lick this very sensitive area as well. Be aware that this can be a ticklish spot. This relieves stress and fatigue, and promotes relaxation.

Back of the ankle. This pleasurable point is in the indent of her outer anklebone, between the ankle and the Achilles tendon.

Bottom of the foot. This erotic pressure point is located on the bottoms of the feet, 2/3 of the distance from the heel to the ball of the foot. You need to press firmly with two fingers or your thumbs to get into this fleshy area. It will energize your partner and create pure bliss.

Well, hope this gets you off to a sexy and stimulating start.

All Power to the Lovers,
Dr. G Love

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