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ASK DR. G LOVE: The Kiss Exchange

Hi Dr G Love,

Here is some background. I have been hosting an exchange student from abroad for over a year. I have enjoyed having this young man in my household. I have been enjoying learning about another culture and country. My children also have been enjoying having someone from abroad in our house. We have done many fun things with him. The nature of our relationship may be changing. About a month and a half ago he started making a point to give me a hug and telling me “good night” before he went to bed each night. This progressed to hugging and a good night kiss. Thankfully my children have not seen him hugging and kissing me before bed. When this first happened I giggled but have come to like it. Recently he has been acting more sexual lately. I first thought that men from his culture were just sexual forward. So are I know. But he does not seem that way to other people. He has given some sexual innuendos and first started hinting about my sex life. About a week or so ago he said that he wondered how many times I have had sex and wondered who would be next. I am guessing that he would like to do it with me. In some ways I feel flattered and it would be nice. What are some considerations I need to consider before engaging in a sexual relationship with him?

Regards,

E.

Dear. E,

Well, well, well. You have quite a romance novel fantasy on your hands don’t you? Very nice. Very sticky. Veeeerrry Sticky. Just how I like em. So… The Sexpert in me (emphasis on the Sex) is thrilled about the possibility of you and the foreign exchange hunk having the international Sexcapade of the year. This guy is flirting, you are attracted to him, he’s not staying for long, but is here now – handy, and you are available. Recipe for success. You two start exchanging glances at the lunch table, footsie at the dinner table, you put the kids to bed and you and him sit closer each evening on the couch until… One evening when you think you might burst and your panties are so wet you wonder if you’re leaving a small lagoon on the upholstery through your jeans, you’re on top of each other and soaring off to your bed where the Olympic games begin. This could happen.

Now, the Sexpert in me (emphasis on Expert) has some logistical concerns:

How old is this student – how old are you? Is this liason even legal? Speaking of legalities, what kind of contract have you signed as his host family? Should this romance go south will he be able to come after you with an attitude problem AND a contract to back him and his lawyer up? Your kids? Is this cool with them around? How much longer is he gonna be with you and your family? Does he have somewhere else to go if Drama ensues? STD’s? Be sure and be safe – don’t believe nuthin he tells ya, baby.

Well, E, I wish you the best case scenario of luck. If somethin’ fabulous happens – keep me posted.

Dr. G Love

Dear Dr. G Love:

I have been out of college for a two years. However, I have been tutoring a college junior in math. He is fun and a good person to tutor. Lately, I have been getting the idea that he wants more to our relationship. He has said some things that may be sexual innuendos. Maybe I am a bit to blame. I have treated like a friend, talked to him, provided food and drinks for our tutoring time. Last time he kissed me after our tutoring time. I do think he is cute and I am happy that a college guy finds me attractive. I am thinking about to allow our relationship to grow and perhaps include sex. Is it ok to make sex a reward to doing good work? How should I start the bargain? Is saying I know that you want to do it with me a good place to start?

Sincerely,

HT

Dear HT,

BTW, does HT stand for Hot Tutor? Umm yes. It’s okay to make sex a reward for doing good work. Absolutely. You both just need to make sure you have a binding contractual agreement. Be it verbal written psychic or otherwise, it needs to be clear and then I vote that you become the most demanding, on point, enthusiastic tutor this boy has ever imagined. I encourage you to journey deep into sexy school teacher fantasy mode. Should you choose to take this mission it may prove to be a rather satisfying bright light shining in the collective consciousness of our dismal educational system. And believe you me – we’re all grateful for that.

So, for the love of learning. Go on and do it, girl. And do it right.

Dr. G Love